Pastoral Musings

Thoughts, essays, and miscellanea…

A Letter To An Abusive Husband

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 26th November 2012

Know, Jack, that we stand ready to help you and Jill. We will stand with Jill to keep her safe, connected to the church family, and full of hope for her future with you. We will stand with you to live as the man of God He calls you to be, to repair your marriage, and to be free of the things that have led to this painful time. We serve a God for whom nothing is too hard. Let us walk by faith, obeying His word, and expecting His grace. Please do be in touch right away.

From “A Pure Church”

This is a very compassionate, wise, and yet firm, approach. I recommend reading it all.

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A Bit of A Different Direction

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 5th March 2012

For the last few years it seems that I haven’t dealt as much with the pastoral side of my pastoral musings.

That has changed lately. I intend for it to change more.

I still intend to deal with doctrine, exegesis, and even the occasional news story. I definitely want to bring in a little humor once again.

My aim, however, is to have a pastoral tone here. I am a pastor. My life is spent preparing messages, preaching, studying God’s Word, and trying to be a good shepherd to the people for whom I am responsible. This blog will be an outlet for thoughts that I hope will be helpful to all who read.

Pastors have the responsibility to build up those to whom they speak/write. They also have the responsibility to fight off wolves and warn the flock of the wolves. Polemics will not be the main goal here, though. Truth is the goal, that we might know Christ better and trust Him more.

I hope to spend a little more time dealing with some of the topics that I’m preaching and let this blog be an outlet for thinking through my exegesis and getting some feedback on that.

In the meantime enjoy a toon from the Church of The Covered Dish

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Taking It Easy

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 22nd November 2011

Relax

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I’m not doing much blogging these days.
There are several reasons why I’m not doing so.
1. I’m busy.
2. I’ve decided that I’ll not stress over whether or not I get to write my thoughts down. I’ll still remember them, even if you don’t get to see them.
3. I’m tired of stressing over things. I’ve read nearly one hundred books per year for the last three years. I’m on schedule to do the same this year. I’ve decided, however, to simply not worry about it. If I can read a lot, I will. If not, I won’t. I need to learn, grow, be a father, Christian, husband, and pastor. I cannot do those things while stressing about things of lesser importance.
I’m not gone. I’m just working on priorities.

Perhaps I’ll be a little more consistent with my blogging after the holidays. I do have to complete the series on inerrancy, so that is an incentive.

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The Pastor Who Cannot Pastor

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 9th August 2011

The church is medium-sized in attendance, yet, on paper the membership roll is even larger. Its solo pastor is a frustrated man. There are some good days, and certainly some fine people who encourage him, but he’s frustrated because the job God called him to do just cannot be done. He has many people to tend to, numbers of which are missing, and even those who are present are more than any average man could possibly care for—that is, really care for.

So, this good-hearted, spiritually-minded pastor lapses into frustration over his inability to do much more than put out fires. And there are plenty of those.

He tries to project the view that he is a true shepherd of all the people. He speaks in warm terms to those attending on Sundays, and to all of the people through the church’s regular publications. The website shows him as if he were the best friend and confidant of all the members, constantly attending to their spiritual growth, mentoring, guiding, and comforting. But the blurb under his photo is only a wish and not a reality. He actually is only able to pastor an inner core on that level—perhaps twenty to thirty, at most. He sometimes thinks that his loving words are no different than those of the TV preacher who looks into the camera and acts as if he is directly speaking to the listener as his dearest friend. He has become a pastor who is not able to pastor.

What can be done?  Eliff offers several points, one of which say,

Work harder at knowing your pastor. If he is not able, due to time, to pour his life into you in a personal way, don’t just give up and remain distant. Men, invite him to your home, take him out to lunch, become his encourager. He will, in turn, carry on a certain level of mentorship just because it is in his spiritual genes to do so. Women, this first point will not work as well for you for obvious reasons if you are single or your husband does not attend, yet remaining as appropriately friendly as possible is always an improvement.

via When Pastors Aren’t Able to Pastor.

This is such a true statement.  Most pastors are lonely men.  They must keep the confidence of people without telling their woes, but they also must carry their own burdens because there are so few who recognize that they have the same sorts of needs as other people.

Ask yourself, “What may I do to help my pastor be an effective pastor?”

 

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The Care of The Pastor for The Church

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 16th July 2011

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Are they ministers of Christ? (I speak as a fool) I am more; in labours more abundant, in stripes above measure, in prisons more frequent, in deaths oft. Of the Jews five times received I forty stripes save one. Thrice was I beaten with rods, once was I stoned, thrice I suffered shipwrack, a night and a day I have been in the deep; in journeyings often, in perils of waters, in perils of robbers, in perils by my own countrymen, in perils by the heathen, in perils in the city, in perils in the wilderness, in perils in the sea, in perils among false brethren; in weariness and painfulness, in watchings often, in hunger and thirst, in fastings often, in cold and nakedness. Besides those things that are without, that which cometh upon me daily, the care of all the churches. ” (2 Corinthians 11:23–28 KJV)

Paul speaks to the Corinthian church of the fact that he is indeed an apostle to whom they should listen. He reminds them that those who come to them have not had the experience in the ministry that he has had. In fact, they are self-serving people who are seeking to exalt themselves, while he is one who has suffered for Christ and His church. This is why they should listen to Paul.

After Paul mentions all of his sufferings he speaks of the care that he has for the churches. The ESV translates it in this manner:

And, apart from other things, there is the daily pressure on me of my anxiety for all the churches. ” (2 Corinthians 11:28)

Yes, Paul has great care for the churches. He is anxious for their well-being. He is pressured with care for them in their tribulations, troubles, strife, and wanderings from Jesus.

Caring for the church is the job of those whom God has placed over them. Whether they are called elders, bishops, pastors, or shepherds, their job is to care for the church. This is why Paul would say, “ if a man know not how to rule his own house, how shall he take care of the church of God? ” (1 Timothy 3:5 KJV)  It is my aim in this post to examine a few things that the average person in the pew does not consider.  This is not a complaint: it is simply the way life is for many of us.  We are thankful for the opportunity to preach God’s Word and minister to His flock, yet we wish for those to whom we minister to understand how great our burden truly is.

Too often members of the body of Christ forget what a job it is for a caring pastor to minister to them. Being a shepherd to God’s flock is not an eight-to-five job. As John Piper would say, “Brothers, We Are Not Professionals!” No, we are more than professionals. Our profession is usually our life. The work of a pastor is with him when he goes to bed and when he arises. A true pastor cares for the churches, agonizes over their sins, and rejoices in her triumphs.

Few people know the amount of time that it takes to prepare a sermon. Few people know how much time is put into studying in general. Even fewer realize the amount of money a pastor often spends out of his own pocket to pay for books that he might learn more of God’s Word and how better he might serve Christ’s church.

There are few who know the loneliness that a pastor experiences. He is lonely because few understand his job, and few take the time to empathize. He is lonely because he must carry the knowledge of people’s personal lives in his mind and heart while saying nothing to betray their trust in him.

Even fewer know the personal struggles that a pastor may have. Whether is is monetary in nature, family problems, or depression. Though his heart is breaking, the pastor is expected to come in with a smile and lift everyone else up. Through the tears, agony, and heartaches of life, the preacher is expected to be strong for himself and everyone else. He is to bear the burdens and the criticisms of others while dealing with his own agonies.

Sadly, too few understand the responsibility that is inherent in being a shepherd who is faithful to God and His Word. Too many people wish to hear their pet doctrines. Too many people are conniessuers of preaching instead of consumers of God’s Word. They do not understand that preaching is not to entertain them, but to change them. They do not understand that the man of God often agonizes over the messages that he preaches because he knows that they will contradict some belief or practice that is greatly treasured by some to whom he speaks. He must do so, however, because faithfulness to God is his calling.

Too many times the pastor is subjected to harsh criticisms because of the stand that he takes. Gossip and slander are not uncommon realities for the shepherd of God’s flock. He must hear it, endure it, and continue to love the people who falsely accuse him. This pastor at various times has experienced loss, heartache, depression, and monetary struggles while remaining quiet about those things. It seems that there are often the times that the unrighteous criticisms are the most intense. While struggling with loss and grief, I’ve been accused of plagiarism and mocked for my preaching style. All the while, I am commanded to love those who do these things and seek to minister to their good. This is often very difficult.

I’m grateful for all those who actually support their pastor. A little love and concern go very far. A simple “I’m praying for you” means far more than anyone could ever know. A word of encouragement and appreciation can be such a great blessing. Please do not forget to share those things with your pastor.

Finally, don’t forget to listen to what he says, and obey God’s Word as it is carefully expounded. That is why God has given you a pastor. “Obey them that have the rule over you, and submit yourselves: for they watch for your souls, as they that must give account, that they may do it with joy, and not with grief: for that is unprofitable for you. ” (Hebrews 13:17) Your pastor will give an account to God, not only for his work as a pastor, but for you. How did you respond? Did you accept or reject God’s Word? He will testify to God of you. Will he do it joyfully, because you loved him and you loved God’s Word; or will he do it with grief because you criticized, condemned, and refused to love Jesus? This is a great care that your pastor has. It is a heavy burden. It is made lighter for him now, and for you later, when you love God’s Word enough to walk in faithful obedience to Christ.

As you assemble to hear God’s Word this next Lord’s Day,  consider how you might encourage the one who speaks to you and cares for you.

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A Name Change

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 22nd June 2011

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I thought about changing the name of this blog.  After all, most of what I muse about is not pastoral in nature.

I thought about changing the name to Fundamentally Christian, or Fundamentally settled (as opposed to Unsettled Christianity).  I thought it would be a pretty good/funny foil to Joel.

In the end, I decided that I would keep the name.  Why?  Because I am a pastor, and I am musing.  Not only so, but my musings affect my pastoral ministry.  As I interact with others in the blogosphere I get ideas.  I learn and grow.  These may be half-baked musings a lot of times, yet from time to time they enter the pulpit a little better done .

I’ll keep the name.

Joel will appreciate it, too…

 

I think.

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Don’t Make Your Pastor a Statistic – Pure Church by Thabiti Anyabwile

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 28th May 2011

According to one survey, only 23% of pastors report being happy and content in their identity in Christ, in their church, and in their home.

I suspect, however, that men in these situations might be crippled all the more were they to faithfully preach a text like 1 Tim. 5:17-20. They would be seen as self-serving and courting with more hostility and dissatisfaction from a people already running afoul of God’s call to churches to honor faithful servants.

So, I’m hopeful at least some of God’s people would consider these statistics, reflect upon their church’s treatment of their pastors, and perhaps lead a conspiracy to make sure faithful elders receive “double honor” from those they teach and lead.

via Don’t Make Your Pastor a Statistic – Pure Church by Thabiti Anyabwile.

There are men in the ministry who are after money.  There is no doubt about that.  Sadly, they have tainted the image of the ministry to such a degree that many never think seriously about the burdens that a pastor carries.  They do not think about the fact that he needs health insurance, and other things that are often provided by other employers.  Some never receive a paid vacation.  Some pay for their own housing.

The burdens of the ministry are great.  The rewards are eternal.  Do not forget, however, that there should be remuneration of various kinds in the present.

 

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Down Time

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 29th April 2011

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I wonder what it would be like to have some down time – time to rest and relax.  The last three years haven’t given me much of that.  The last six weeks have given even less.  Pastoral duties, revival preaching, writing, and trying to put out a few proverbial fires have kept me on the go.

I think God was right in setting apart a day for rest.  I try to take a day a week and use it for reading, but reading isn’t rest.  I seldom read for pleasure.  If I do, I still don’t rest.  I speed read fiction, then, when I’m through I go back to my studies.

I hope to take a vacation in a few weeks.  Maybe then I can take my shoes off, cool my feet in a mountain stream, and relax for a day or so.

Until then, I’ll keep harassing Joel and King James.

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David Cloud on The 20/20 Program on IFB And Abuse

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 19th April 2011

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David Cloud says that it’s not as bad as it sounds.

To lump all IB churches together into one pot of cultic abuse is slanderous.I have personally preached in hundreds of IB churches whose pastors do not demand “unquestioning loyalty,” whose pastors are humble men who know that they are under discipline just like anyone else in the church, whose deacons and teachers are godly, compassionate men and women and are nothing like those exposed in the 20/20 report.20/20 interviewed and gave total credence to the criticisms of some people who were allegedly the subjects of abuse in IB churches, but they could have interviewed thousands of people who grew up in IB homes and churches and would testify that they were treated with Christian compassion and grace.

via 20/20s Hit Piece Against Bible-Believing Baptists | Fundamentalism, Church | Way of Life Literature.

Sure, he has warned against the cultic mentality.  He has, however, contributed to that same mentality by being careless with his coverage of those with whom he disagrees.  Not only so, but he is slanted in his reporting.  One only needs to click through to his article to see that he has more of a concern about the image of Independent Baptist Churches than he does the fact that there is a problem in the movement as a whole.  Consider the fact that he characterizes the 20/20 program as a “hit piece.”

He would have done much better to have stated that the program was inaccurate, but that there are indeed serious problems within IFBX circles (Not the he believes in the existence of the X in IFBX.) and then given recommendations on how to fix them.

It is sad that there is the feeling that we need to prop up the movement.  God will prop up the movement, if He pleases.  We need to recognize our failures, repent, and fix the problems.

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D.A. Carson: Academics Need to Do Practical Christian Work, Also.

Posted by Pastoral Musings on 15th April 2011

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If you are an academic, you need to put yourself into places where, as it were, you take your place with the frontline troops from time to time. This means engaging the outside world at a personal level, at an intellectual and cultural level; it means working and serving in the local church; it means engaging in evangelism. Avoid becoming a mere quartermaster.

via Academicians: Avoid Being a Mere Quartermaster – Justin Taylor.

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